Are you thinking to become parents through a surrogacy journey? Are you looking for a surrogate mother? In this blog post you will find a five steps guide that will help you during your surrogacy journey to find a surrogate
5 steps surrogacy guideStep 1: Consider all your options.
Are you going to pursue a traditional or a gestational surrogacy journey? Are you going to work an agency or you prefer to go intendent? Do you know about the local regulation regarding surrogacy in your country?
Step 2: Talk It over
Talk with your family, friends and colleagues that you want to become parent through surrogacy and that you are looking for a surrogate mother. Sometimes the mouth to mouth can help you to find a surrogate mother.
Step 3: Hire a surrogacy agency.
If you are not able to find a surrogate mother on your own perhaps you need to consider the option to hire an agency. Besides supporting with the search of your surrogate they will guide you during the whole process.
Step 4: Hire a n experienced family attorney
It’s really important that you get in contact with a reputable lawyer and you get legal advice regarding the legal process in the country where your surrogate lives and also in your own country (if you are following and international surrogacy process)
Step 5: Pick up your fertility clinic
It’s important that you choose a fertility clinic with high successful rates located close to the residence of your surrogate mother
Three advices to find the right surrogateSome Tips to remember while you search for gestational carrier:
1- Ask a lot of questions and be totally honest with her
2- Discuss about type of communication you want to have before, during and after the pregnancy. Ensure you feel comfortable with her
3- Discuss openly things about their feeling about carrying tinns, abortion and amniocentesis
For a good surrogacy experience it’s very important that intended parents and surrogate mother are on the same page and share same expectations and goals.
When you come from such a tight-knit and loving family, you would naturally want to recreate that for yourself. And you'd be right, because it's always been my biggest and brightest dream. Of course, like most people, this dream originally included a partner to go on this adventure with, but I always knew that single or married, I would make it happen one way or the other.
The pivotal moment in this journey came on the afternoon my sister had her thirteen week appointment to find out whether she was having a girl or a boy. She texted me two ultrasound pictures, so I asked her, "Boy or Girl?" Her answer? "Yes." It took me a minute to grasp what she was saying, and then it hit me. Twins! We don't have any twins in our family so it was a total shock to us! But I am a Gemini, so I always wanted to be a twin and I always wanted to have twins, so it was at that very moment that I realized, at 32 years old, that it was time to buckle down, learn what I needed to learn about what my options were, and start actively working towards that dream, not just imagining it.
I’ve done my research - on surrogacy in US and Canada, on adoption, and on foster care. I have called and emailed and spoken to agencies and blogs and seminars, to friends and friends of friends who have embarked on their own journeys to parenthood. I have the full and unequivocal support of amazing friends near and far, not to mention the support of my entire family. In short, I'm an awful lucky guy, and the only thing missing is a child of my own.
Unfortunately, the costs associated with surrogacy in the States are prohibitive so the only option for me is pursue surrogacy in Canada where this process is altruistic. It is important for me to consider this unborn baby first and foremost, and that money is better spent putting this future baby through college, or for music lessons, and sports or other activities, whatever brings joy and laughter and smiles to this baby's heart and soul.
You cannot imagine the gratitude I feel toward women that decide to become a surrogate mother who so willingly offer up the greatest gift you could give. I try very hard to give back that love and support and encouragement and joy to those around me - family, friends, and strangers too! I believe it is my responsibility and obligation to show others what that feels like, and I hope to have the chance to experience the joy and miracle of parenthood myself one day too.
In my heart I know that not having a child would be my only regret in life, and I know, from the most genuine part of me, that this is what is meant for me. To raise a child in a happy, laughter-filled home, where they can grow and explore and learn. Where they can play with their cousins, uncles, and aunts. I want to be able to look into my parents' eyes and see them well up with tears of joy as mine do right now, as we exchange a glance that means so much. That this dream - that this dream has actually, finally, truly come to pass.
Thanks you so much, from the bottom of my heart, for even being willing to explore the journey of surrogacy. If you are thinking to become a surrogate, you are the kind of person that makes the world go round, who teaches others what compassion and giving and sacrifice looks and feels like. And for that, I am eternally grateful, you are a blessing no doubt!!
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One of the most important things to find surrogate mother is to write a letter to your surrogate, before matching surrogates want to know more about who you are, your hobbies, your family, etc
Bellow you will find an example.
We are both very excited about this new stage in our lives: we have decided to become parents! This is a project we have been talking about for a long time, and we now feel that this is the best time to make it happen. And thanks to you, this may truly become a reality.
We are Marco and Lucas and we would like to share our story with you. We have been in a relationship since 2010. We like to say that when we met it was love at first sight ! We met again a few times later on, got to know each other better and realized that this feeling we both shared when we met the first time was becoming more profound and solid. We decided to move in together two years after we met and since then we have been aiming at building a family of our own.
Our story could not be complete without telling you about our wedding! We got married in NY, in early 2015! This was a very emotional and happy ceremony as many of our closest family members and friends came to celebrate our union with us. We received great support and congratulations from our friends and families for our wedding.
Because we both come from large families (our parents each had between 3 and 10 siblings) and because we know the importance our brother and sisters hold in our lives, we would like to have more than one child. We deeply hope that providence will allow us to realize this dream. We have a large network of friends (with children) and family around us that are keen to support us time to time with raising our children.
So, this is our little story. Thank you very much for taking the time to read it !
Warm thanks !
In the next video you will find more tips about finding surrogate mother on your own
My husband and I wish to express our gratitude to you for taking the time to read our story about a couple trying to become parents through surrogacy in Canada.
The journey to having our first child has been long and challenging, and it never ceases to astound us that there are women like you, of such character and generosity, that you may be willing to become a surrogate mother for our family.
My name is Susana, I’m a 33-year-old small business owner. I operate a stationary and graphic design company specializing in custom wedding invitations and other unique paper goods.
Markus is a 33-year-old Controls Systems Designer for an automation company. I think that means he makes robots… Nope, he’s telling me it doesn’t mean that—it sounds more boring.
Markus and I have been together for ten years, and married for six. We met in high school—our lockers only a few feet apart. If it had ended there, today we would call each other “high school sweetheart” or “first love,” but we have been inseparable for half of our lives. Markus calls me his best friend, and he is my favourite person in the world.
There is nothing more important to us than family. God help this baby’s cheeks, because they are going to be pinched to ribbons by our large, extended French family. In addition to our parents, Markus and I have two sisters and one brother between us, and five nieces and nephews. We also have a close-knit group of friends with their own growing families, including six kids, all under the age of four—two of whom are our Godchildren. Every day, we wake up knowing we are blessed with the love and support of our friends and family, and we are eager to share that blessing with our child.
We live in Toronto (Canada) since 5 years ago. It’s a great community with excellent schools and a stone’s throw from nature. Living in Toronto has allowed us to carve out a nice little existence for ourselves. I love going to farmers’ markets, antiquing and searching out new and exciting food trucks. And when he’s not at a farmers’ market, antiquing or picking up our lunch order, Markus will go fishing, read, or enjoy a good Sunday afternoon nap with Kia, our dog. We are also both outdoors people—if Markus’s beard didn’t tip that already. Our weekends are often spent camping, hiking, and canoeing. We grew up loving the fresh air, the feeling of grass between our toes, and the crunch of dried leaves or snow under our boots.
Markus and I have been together long enough that we know the kind of home in which this baby will grow up. It’s a social household full of laughter, love and tradition. I can say with certainty, Markus will be a doting father full of all kinds of dad knowledge to impart: how to bait a hook, fix a light switch or open a tax-free savings account. And Markus tells me that I’ll be the patient, loyal, and open-hearted mother that every kid deserves. We look forward to making backyard hockey rinks in the winters and going on family road trips in the summers.
We have been trying to have a baby with no result for the last four years. While we are both optimistic and resolute people, it has been a struggle. In our efforts to have a child, Markus and I have gone down just about every road possible. Despite all the disappointment over the years, every time we’ve been let down, we’ve been together to pick each other up.
Surrogacy offers us one more chance to bring our baby into this world—he’s just having a bit of trouble finding his way. Again, we are humbled and grateful that you would be willing to consider helping Markus and I become parents. Moving forward, we would love to form an open and trusting relationship with you, and be involved with the process throughout. After the baby is born, we will respect any contact you wish to have with the child, and welcome you into our home and family. And, of course, you will have our eternal gratitude for the generosity shown in helping us finally bring our family together. Ideally, we would like to find a surrogate with who we can build a long term friendship.
We are truly humbled by the fact that there are women in this world who would so selflessly give the gift of life to another human and want to become a surrogate mother. From the bottom of our hearts we thank you for your generosity in helping others complete their families.